Blind Date Basics
friend has just set you up with a guy you have never met and know nothing about, except what she has told you. You have those fears. What if I don't like him or what if I like him but he doesn't like me. Well don't worry, we are here to help.
Keep an open mind
Remember this is a blind date.
You have never seen this guy before. Don't form a mental image of him or have high expectations. You will only be disappointed if he is not how you imagined. You will know within the first few minutes whether you are attracted to him or not.
Keep it short but sweet
Don't arrange to meet at the
cinema, for dinner or any where else hat could keep you together for more than an hour. Arrange to meet up for a coffee or during your lunch break. If you are not interested in the guy then you can make a quick exit if you have only agreed to meet for half an hour or an hour and if you do like him then you can stay where you are or arrange to meet up again.
It is crucial when on a blind date that you have an escape route. You could get a friend to
call you 30 minutes into the date and if you don't like him you can make an excuse and leave and if you do like him then you can tell your friend to call you back later. (Remember to always let someone know where you are.) Or you could tell him that you promised your friend you'd go shopping an hour after you and he planned to meet. If the date is going well, pretend to go call her to let her know that "you'd not up to going shopping." Go shopping if you aren't interested. You could get some friends to turn up at the meeting point and if things aren't going well you can leave with them and if things are going well tell them you will meet up with them later.
Meet ânâ greet
One of the biggest mistakes people make when going on a blind date is trying to be someone they
When meeting someone for the first time, be yourself. Whether that
means going all out or remaining casual, your personality will shine through only if youâre not trying to be something you arenât. While first impressions are important, do not feel the need to wear heels on a Sunday if youâd normally wear flip-flop sandals. He wants to know who you are; not who you think he wants you to be.
Better safe than sorry
While going on a blind date can be exciting and fun, remember that you have no firsthand
knowledge about the person you are meeting. If you have been set up through mutual friends, they will most likely have a rough idea of your plans.
But just in case, make sure someone knows exactly where and when youâre meeting.
If the person you are meeting is a complete stranger, however, you
need to take even more precautions. Make sure someone knows your whereabouts, knows the name of the person you will be meeting, and how long the date is scheduled for. You may want to have a friend join you, or "run into you" about 15 minutes into the date to check up on you.
it clear from the start if you intend to pay for half of everything. You may not want to feel like you owe the guy anything.
Parting after a blind date has the potential to be very awkward, but it doesnât have to be! Should you
kiss him, if you like him? Should you tell him you arenât interested? Itâs always best to do whatever you think feels right. If you are interested in going out with him again, make sure he
knows it and tell him that you will call. If you arenât interested in seeing him again, make sure that you let him know. Itâs better to be honest then stringing him along to false hopes.
Getting to know him
Pay close attention to the
things he says, which can reveal a lot. Discussing taste in music, film, food, and art can be a great way to find out if you two have common interestsâ"or nothing in common at all!
You should also look for common "warning signs" when on a blind date. If the guy does any of the following, watch out!
- Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the date
- Doesnât offer to pay for the first date (or the second, or thirdâŚ)
- Speaks badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends
- Treats the waiters, staff rudely or doesnât tip
Remember not everyones tastes are the same and there will be
things about a guy that you do not like, such as baldness, lack of hygeine etc.. Theses are your own warning signs so don`t egnore them.